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Actions speak louder than words...
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Actions speak louder than words... I was reading my friend maxibadbitch's blog on [post 2214319] . Where I normally just leave comments on others blogs, felt inspired on a related subject which may not have been her exact point, but seems to come up quite frequently. I personally enjoy meeting new people from this and other sites and in no way hide that fact. Oddly though, while noticing more locals visiting more regularly than in the previous couple of years, haven't exactly met face to face with a proportionately equal number. Before anyone starts to think that it's just my narcissism convincing me that everyone would want to meet me, more frequently I read posts in blogs and groups of others who do meet people saying the same thing, as well as more frequently the "Being stood up" posts, and the couples "want to meet posts" but haven't. I don't understand what people find so hard, personally, to meet people, even if it is smaller communities, and people wish to remain discrete regarding more adult activities. I used to meet all kinds of people from the site in Toronto when I lived there. Some I played with, some just became good friends, and others just people I could at least say I knew their face if I ran into them on chat. So, in a never ending quest to encourage the social aspect of the social site, I've decided to post some obvious facts, that those debating the courage to meet someone forget to remember that ends up dissuading them. First, and most obvious, meeting someone from the site who may find out you are a member of the site. Think about it, they are on the very same site. Why be embarrassed that someone who "kinda knows you" will find out you have a liking for sex when so do they. At worst, it's admitting that you can start a conversation with a common interest. This brings me to the second point and peeve, "Prefer not to say". While aspects you either wish to remain flexible on, or prefer to be found out first hand, don't leave that for every stat possible, and expect anyone to take you seriously enough to even email to find out more. Everyone may have preferences that you feel will disqualify you from their original interest, but hiding these facts with nothing else to go on, is not going to make them want to contact you any more than knowing that you may or may not share a common interest. In other words, if you're fat, say you're fat (there are just as many people out there looking for bigger people), if you're looking for some cock to suck, say so. Otherwise you'll never find out if there's a cock out there to suck. And lastly, if you're a couple open to meeting or playing with a single guy or girl, add that to your preferences. Remember, putting it in the long written preferences won't make it clear to anyone without a full membership who can't read profiles. Lastly for now, and what I feel is everyone's biggest fear. Agreeing to meet someone DOES NOT automatically mean you're stating you'll have sex with them, so you don't have to feel you're leading them on, or feel obligated to have to have sex with them, either then, or in the future. It is just meeting others with common interests. If those interests are common enough after meeting, and there's a spark, then you can think about meeting them to instigate sex next time. While in Toronto, there were plenty of people I met with one on one, or at parties who became great friends that I didn't have sex with. There were even those who I eventually did have sex with months late. And there are those who I met and did have chemistry with, and progressed quickly. In every case, including those who the first meet was the last, a simple rule was conveyed which I feel still holds truth; Promise nothing, expect nothing, and take it for what is comes out to be. Make no promises, tell no lies, no disappointments. It's that last philosophy which I feel has allowed me to meet some great people from here, and with any luck and effort, will enable me to meet even more. So if you're going to say it on here, at least put the effort into doing it. 
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I couldn't have said it better Maxi!! If I have stopped by your blog, please be sure to sign my permission slip Pimp Me, Pimp My Blog, But Let Me Do The Same With You 
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Maxi, I think that's people's biggest fear. Especially after guy's talking like they have 12 inch cocks and women talking as they're fuck machines. They're just afraid to be found out as less than they've built themselves up to be. Spread the word, and my philosophy. Worse that could happen is people realize they can be honest, and meet some great people in the process.
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Maxi, in Toronto, it was almost ritualistic that you at least "clean cammed" before agreeing to meet someone face to face, since, while then the majority had photos, everyone knew how easy they were to doctor the lighting. Sadly, since coming back east, except for the regular faces at the regular dances, everyone else just seems to be talk, talk, talk, or a lot of "just looking". I want my life of surrounded by fellow pervs back! 
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