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What does a woman enjoy for a turn on?
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What does a woman enjoy for a turn on? So after much discussion it has been decided that what turns women on in this lifestyle is rather varied. There are some similarities but for the most part it is all about how they feel at the moment. Shocking find isn’t it? Not that this is shocking or something totally unknown I think the general population of real men have known this for quite some time. Many of us stumble thru life trying desperately to impress someone that we are attracted to…to the point of looking almost foolish….ok ridiculously foolish…but it is in our nature. Recently talking to a friend of mine I was surprised to find that “Tim” had found the secret to turning women on, or at the very least in his mind he did. When he wants to get lucky he wears his dark green trousers, Dockers, without any underwear…..goes commando……this I really could have gone all day….hell…..many days…months even without having to know. His claim is that it “silhouettes” him well in a dimly lit bar and lets the ladies know what he is looking for and if they are game he is too. “It makes my motives known and allows for quick and easy access”, says “Tim”. The only thing that came to mind for me was……this boy is really sad. I mean damn. He is younger then I am yet I think his mind is stuck in 1979 and the heart of the wild and crazy guy syndrome during the height of Disco. Again…..Damn!! I am not so sure that a woman in a nonsexual situation, like having a drink at a lounge or shopping glances at a man who is licking his lips, thrusting his pelvis out, or going commando…no matter what he is packing….flipping a switch that sets her in “needing sex” mode. Where as a man even thinks a woman “glanced” at him or “gave me the look” and he is off in a fantasy faster then lightening and in the “on” mode hoping to “get lucky”. I think the difference can be summed up in a quote I read recently in another post that quoted Jeff Foxworthy, and he seems to have a handle on the differences on what turns on men and woman. "A woman can walk up to her man and say, 'I'm not wearin' any underwear.' His first thought is, 'Alright! Might get lucky!' But if a man walks up to a woman and says, 'I'm not wearin' any underwear.' her first thought is, 'Oh, damn! I'm gonna have to wash those pants twice!'" I have heard it all. In this lifestyle there are those who are here as free spirits, like I believe I am, who enjoy sharing sexual activity with others as an accepted adult extricular activity and believes it to have a majickal basis and receives great pleasure in pleasuring any willing woman regardless of expectations or reciprocation, and then to the other extreme the extreme ego tripping guy who really believes he is all that and only he can really show just what each woman has been missing, being the great lover he believes he is. That he is the answer to what the woman in questions lover/SO/husband can’t do for her. Sad individuals indeed. Within it all is the center of this lifestyle: a woman. As I have always said, without women all we would have is a room full of hairy guys with nothing to do. Now that is an image that will stick far too long in anyone’s mind. But it is true. It does require a woman confident in her self and her sexuality or desire to be sexual so that she enjoys what she does, as well as what is done for her knowing that is a part of her not what defines her. It doesn’t mean that she has to “want it all the time”, is obligated to provide or “that she is the personal play thing for men” (although some like that fantasy or experience). It doesn’t mean that she has to be part of the lifestyle she could be only this way with her one lover or husband. And it doesn’t make her any more or less of a woman, that only happens in how men will treat her and how she allows men to treat her…but that is another topic It does mean that she enjoys the excitement, the being excited, the tease, the causing the excitement….and here it is…….wait for it…..the control she has over her sexual self and what she can do for others at her own choosing. And all that brings us back to the original question. What turns you on? What, as a woman, do you enjoy most about sexual play? Do you prefer to be the aggressor or the aggressie? Do you enjoy the man or woman you are with getting excited knowing that you are the orchestrater of that excitement? Does the act of making your partner excited and giving them an orgasm satisfy you in some way? Excite you to a higher level of sexual awareness for yourself or does the actual climax, the orgasm they experience cause you the excitement? Does watching a woman achieve orgasm increase your sexual excitement? Does watching a man orgasm increase your sexual excitement? Are you more fulfilled sexually watching a man ejaculate, feeling him ejaculate or just knowing he has as a result of your efforts? Sherper  |
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11/11/2007 8:21 pm |
Wow, what a great post! Let me dig right into it. What turns me on? So many different things and at so many different moments. As a general rule, confidence turns me on. Personality turns me on. Sounds of pleasure turn me on. Dom vs. Sub? I enjoy both but my preference runs towards being the submissive one for sure. A major turn on is a man, or even woman, who has the comfort level to be the aggresor without being humiliating. The ability to excite and bring pleasure to your partner is very powerful. Having a satisfied partner satisfies me on some crazy subconscious level. As I have grown in this lifestyle, so has my sexual and self awareness. The knowledge that what you are doing has such an immediate and positive response is an excellent confidence builder  I enjoy all aspects of ejaculation, but my favorite is definitely tasting. Oh wait, that wasn't an option  Excellent post Sherper, once again you have awakened my mind (though I always appreciate the attention you pay to my other parts too, hehe)   
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You make me blush. Thank you for responding and I look forward to seeing you again. Say hi to BD for me. Sherper
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