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INTRODUCTION TO SWINGING FOR COUPLES: 102  

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4/4/2017 10:02 am
INTRODUCTION TO SWINGING FOR COUPLES: 102

Ok, you have placed your ad and may have even responded to other's ads that sounded promising or nearby. Let's start out with a few cautions. (remember: you can be anything you want with the anonymity of the Internet)!

Outside of "common sense" there are no set rules to the lifestyle. I always used my gut feeling when talking to new people. And always left an out if when meeting you are not interested in a particular couple.

I always found the incomplete profile a red flag, if they don't want to take the time to spell out who they are, what they are looking for, then you can usually put them in the "FLAKE" file, but not always, some are cautious of to much information leading to others knowing who they are in public life. I never responded to the ones that request a nude photo with the first contact, they are usually picture collectors and you never know just where those photos might show up. Wanting you to give them your phone number or e-mail on the first contact. If you are not looking to meet solo males; no matter how often you state this in your profile you will get single males fishing, hoping they just might be the one to turn you on to a threesome. You will find that often the other party will insist on meeting right away. We never felt comfortable doing that, it would be up to you to make that decision. And if you indicate you want to meet in public, I doubt that you will ever hear from them again. We always planned a public meeting and if they were not interested in that then the red flags waved again. (Beware the ones that say "Meet us in the parking lot behind Dennys Resturant") believe it or not, we had several of those requests. You might be amazed at who you may meet. We once met and played with a couple that she mentioned she was a teacher at a certain school, not only was it the same school that our grandson attended, but she was his teacher....small world...had a grat time, perhaps because we had something in common.

Don't push things, especially if your significant other is a bit shy or nervous. If you do decide to play with a couple and a motel is mentioned, be ready to pay half the cost of the room.

Breaking the ice when you finally have a planned play time....one good way is if the hotel/motel has a hot tub, relax and enjoy some conversation. Also, take a deck of cards with you and play a round of "strip poker" always a good way to get everyone's clothes off.

If you have done all your checking and it looks like sex is a go... for the male, don't let performance anxiety let you down, this is not a porno video and not a performance to impress the other couple. To help alleviate that foreplay can be just as arousing as the actual "Deed"...For the female..it might be beneficial to talk to the other female and see what she has experienced....also a nice set of lingerie is ver erotic to both sexes when playing.

Have fun and don't let the lifestyle consume you. We know others that their whole existence in built around meeting new couples. We have met and played with some of the same couples for several years...I was nice to know what..when..and how it was going to go down...pun intended

Have fun, be safe and be sane....

tommo

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