Secrets of Discreet Gay Dating
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Posted:May 1, 2014 4:16 pm
Last Updated:Oct 31, 2015 1:09 am
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Okay, maybe these aren't secrets, but just in case they are . .. this is mostly directed to the guys on the site and is sort of equal parts venting and an actual desire to be helpful.
1. Fill out your profile and post a picture. Maybe think about something other than or in addition to a picture of your penis. Don't use the boilerplate Discreet Gay Dating profile, either, we've all seen it enough to recognize it ("When I'm out driving . . . " "When I'm home on a Friday night . . "). Be yourself, be honest, say something about yourself and why you are here. Yes, we know you want sex. Be more specific.
2. Yes, there are a lot of fakes on here. For men, this generally means profiles of beautiful young women who are more interested in your credit card than you and will want you to come to another website to see them on cam or something like that. If you are looking for that, go ahead and spend your money, but don't expect to meet a real person. For women, it's not so much fake profiles as it is profiles of married men who say they're single or men who really just want someone to chat or cam with while they masturbate. Some admit it, some don't.
3. Good news: there are also real people on here who do want to meet and get naked. And just about anything you're into, someone else will be, too. Try the groups to find those with similar interests or in your area.
4. Numbers are not in your favor here if you are a male looking for a female. Sorry: that's just reality. What this means is that just about any woman on here has some choices. And, although YMMV, most of us are not likely to respond favorably or at all to one-line emails asking if we wanna fuck or whether we like to suck dicks or so on. We may actually be interested in doing those things at some point, but if you want to catch someone's attention, try starting with something like a hello and maybe a line or two about what you liked about her profile? And you might think about telling her what you're going to do for her rather than only focusing on what you want her to do for you. If you're not both going to get pleasure from this, what's in it for her?
5. Read the profiles! Okay, I know you can't if you're a standard member, but otherwise, save yourself some time. Women tend to be pretty specific about what they want and expecting someone to change her mind because you want it to happen . . . not that likely. For example, I'm not into virtual sex, so stop asking me to cam. Not going to happen no matter how horny you are.
6. I know I said this before, but be honest! Posting pictures of yourself 10 or 20 years ago is just going to lead to disappointment when someone does meet you. If you're married, admit it: there are plenty of married women who are more comfortable with a married man because you are on the same page and understand the need for discretion. Wouldn't that be preferable to someone single who might develop feelings for you and end up making some messy emotional scene? Not saying all single women would do this or that you're automatically insulated from that with a married person, but consider your odds.
7. Have fun with this and take your time chatting or emailing with someone if you are really interested. You may find a friend or a lover or both. You may have amazing sex. There are a lot of possibilities.
8. [Edited to add] One more thing: Take a minute or two to read or proofread your profile. Not everyone will care, but plenty of us do. Skip the text-speak unless you're really young. If you can't write a one-line description without spelling or grammatical errors, I for one am definitely not impressed. Finally: one female is a WOMAN, more than one are WOMEN. You are not seeking "a women." Seriously!
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