Time for a change
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Posted:Dec 14, 2009 4:29 pm
Last Updated:Dec 14, 2009 7:57 pm
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So just after getting my golden ball reinstated, I quickly looked at my profile and realized I haven't really changed it in about 2+ years. I think I sorely need to make an update.
I haven't gone through it with a fine tooth comb yet, and most of my views remain the same regarding play friends & FWB, but I think, like a fresh coat of paint, it's time give it a fresh look.
So what do you think?
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I got my ball back! I'm baaaack! :D
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Posted:Dec 9, 2009 3:01 pm
Last Updated:Dec 15, 2009 2:02 pm
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So I tried to go with a standard membership for a while, just to see if it would still serve its purpose. But after being used to viewing profiles, contacting people, and flirting, I was just too spoiled for a standard membership to make due anymore.
So it's back to full golden ball for my balls, so rest assured, I'll be perving your profile. 
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And the rant continues...
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Posted:Aug 26, 2009 8:09 pm
Last Updated:Sep 9, 2009 4:14 pm
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So the last one was more just a "WTF was that?". This little rant actually pissed me off.
As I've back-grounded, I'm pretty much an anti-social when it comes to my work. I'm more a person most know of for no particular reason, yet no one knows anything about. I think it's the hair.
So at work, I've changed accounts recently, now working with all new people I've never worked with before (call centre) and after only a week on the floor and 2 weeks of training I pull some over time. Halfway through this OT session, one of the women I work with asks if I want to head out for a smoke. On the way she asks me if I'm gay. Totally out of left field, I tell her "No, why do you ask?", and she says "someone told me you were". I'm actually shocked. I say "Excuse me?" "Who said they think I might me gay?", where she replied "no, she didn't say she thinks you're gay, she said she knows you are." Again, I'm shocked, replying "Well that person must think they know me better than I do, cause I didn't know I was gay", they proceeded to ask her who said I was. She wouldn't say, claiming she didn't want to be the cause of hostility, but would say it was one of the dozen people working in our section (narrowed it down immensely). I let her know that I didn't hold the rumor against her and thanked her for letting me know someone is spreading these lies about me, but that such a rumor does piss me off, and right so.
What pisses me off isn't so much the gay part. Even if I was (which really I'm not) it would still piss me off. You don't "out" anyone, especially when they're not even in, and more especially if you don't even know anything about them. Second reason it pisses me off is this being a small town, with many equally small view points, such rumors would cause those who are uncomfortable with homosexuality to act differently around or towards me. Now being limited socially when it comes to work as to who I care to socialize with, I don't need someone to create a cloud of either me making other uncomfortable, nor myself.
I have it narrowed down to one of 4 people, not being a "run to HR" kinda guy, I've contemplated a couple ways to return the favor of a feeling of discomfort. The first being to tell those I do associate with about this discovery, and how it took less than a week for rumors about me to spread, and to say it loud enough so that one of the ones who may have started it realize how ridiculously stupid they look. This I've already started, and continue to do when the ideal opportunities arise.
The second is to post signs on the walls of my cubical for those to see as they walk past. One will read " Beware the stories you tell of others...you never know when the stories will turn to be about YOU!". The second, and my favorite I think will read "Spreading stories about people is the second easiest way to look like a fool and create enemies.....Spreading stories about ME is the first easiest."
So what do you think. Am I being overly sensitive about the whole thing, or do you think I'm justified? Let me know.
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Maybe it's just me....
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Posted:Aug 26, 2009 7:30 pm
Last Updated:Nov 30, 2009 8:20 pm
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Ok so I'm obviously not a regular blogger (basically about 6 months apart each time) but I do from time to time. Usually because either a thought is stuck in my head, or something I need to rant about.
This is gonna be a rant I think.
To start, I'm pretty closed lipped about myself since I moved back, especially when it comes to people at work. I don't have one of these jobs that's overly exciting or enjoyable, and similarly neither are those around me I work with. I show up for the paycheck not to socialize, so really, I don't. I just show up, put on my headphones, listen to the Edge 102.1, and do my job all day. So the background you have, and how it pertains, you'll easily figure out.
Now the rant. The first and most recent was yesterday. Now I've pointed out, I'm pretty anti-social at work, so I was doing my regular lunch run over to Timmies (mmmmm coffee....black...just coffee and a cup....just how I like my women, hot and naked...sorry, got distracted), so I'm walking over and a car pulls up beside me as I'm walking. The guy is one I recognize from the building but to this point have never so much as exchanged pleasantries in the past 2 years I've been there. So anyways, he asks me what account I moved over to (being as many have switched accounts recently) and starts rhyming off different names, asking if I'm working near them (giving short descriptions of them). Repeatedly it was like "no..no..no" then finally one that was in my training class. With that he says "Tell her H-w--d says hi, I just quit today", the drives off.
Is it just me, or does that just sound fucked and sooking for attention. Firstly, I never spoke to this guy about anything before, and until he said "tell (whoever) that H-w--d says hi" I never even knew (or cared for that matter) his name. Secondly, the fore mentioned person he wants me to say hi to is not in any way a friend of mine. In fact, I find her particularly annoying because of her annoying "I" syndrome. (For those not familiar with it, that is the ailment that causes people to constantly talk and regardless of the topic, always have to make it about them. ie: Topic: talking to someone about brake work instructions, and this person buts in with "I had to get my brakes changed on a car once, I know this guy who did it really cheap for me, that was on my old car, but I just bought a new one...did you see my new car...I got a deal cause I know this other person..."). Are people that hard up for attention, even from a complete stranger, that they need to vocalize their little drama to someone? Is it wrong that I so didn't give a shit, that I feel I should be compensated for the 90 seconds of my life he wasted with his internal drama act, which wasn't even dramatic enough to at least garner a giggle at his expense?
Yes, the whole incidence was far from dramatic, and no, I'm not looking for a pity party in response to it.
Just a little rant with no concequence I needed to get off my chest. Mearly a warm up for the next one that actually pissed me off.
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Don't live in the past?
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Posted:Mar 29, 2009 11:58 am
Last Updated:Jul 28, 2009 8:59 pm
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You always here people say it, but wrap your mind around this...
The present is ever fleeting, mearly a moment that arrives and passes in a blink without a thought. What we are then left with is what was the present is now the past sooner than a heartbeat. Yet what we do in the present, impacts what will happen in the future, soon to be the present, than quickly the past, never changing.
Keeping that in mind, I now believe all we do in life is for past's sake. We make decisions for the future so that when they occur in the present, the memories they leave to be in the past are either pleasant or not as negative as they could be.
Everything we endevor is to create pleasant and enjoyable memories, for when the experiences happen they are fleeting, but the memories of which live on.
Life is but a memory, so live for the past, since it is not to far off in the future.
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Reflections
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Posted:Jan 2, 2009 8:56 pm
Last Updated:Mar 29, 2009 11:45 am
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"Regrets, Ive had a few;
But then again, too few to mention.
I did what I had to do
And saw it through without exemption."
I'm not necessarily a Sinatra fan (especially after sooo many bad karaoke renditions), but the mark of the season is normally one of reflection.
I've had to endure a lot of rapid changes to my life in the past couple years, many not by choice. But still, looking back, like many, there are a few things I wish I had made different choices resulting in different outcomes.
Some things I think were a positive in the past year, were the making of a couple new friends (or at least potential ones). Of coarse, based on some choices, I lost a couple as well. Sort of a balance in life I've come to expect, like it or not.
Upon reflection, I do realize I have a tendency to distance myself from people at times. It's a character flaw that's been pointed out before, and I really do have to make a conscious effort to over come it, although the reasons from it's start dwell deep (which I will not get into here). But a trait I do plan on working on.
There is so much I could say on this topic, too much of which too personal for a blog.
For those reading however, I encourage you, in this time of reflection. Do not just look at the obvious positives in your live to draw strength, but also the negatives. Realizing those, and how you survived them, as well as what you can learn from them about yourself, can make you a much stronger person over all.
Look ahead, and enjoy what the new year brings.
~Witness~
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Meet...Met...Greet....Gret (is that a word)
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Posted:Nov 10, 2008 6:10 pm
Last Updated:Nov 26, 2008 9:18 pm
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Ok, here I was surrounded by strangers and people I've chatted with, but never met before in a city I hadn't even drove past (but have flown over) in well over 10 years.
Sound scary yet?
What was it like? I had a good time.
Of coarse, having attended meets in Ontario, I did expect there to be some drama, annoyances, and things I would have done differently. But then I remembered my mantra "...but how does that effect my life." and all was good.
I finally had the opportunity to meet some of the people I'd been chatting with, and for the most part turned out to great people....some better than others.
While some I hope were not disappointed in meeting the man behind the Witness, those who were I'm pretty sure my fragile ego can survive the realization.
In all, it was a pretty good weekend and worth the sore ass from the long drive. And I hope to see many of you again soon whether there's an official function or not.
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Finally
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Posted:Nov 6, 2008 3:23 pm
Last Updated:Feb 28, 2009 7:16 am
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Finally, I'm going to get a chance to meet some more of the Eastern pervs I've been chatting with on the site this Saturady in Moncton.
I used to love the M&G and parties in Toronto (and surrounding area) and am so looking forward to meeting everyone at the Moncton Party this Saturday.
Look forward to meeting so many of you. For those who can't make it to this one, hope I get the opportunity to meet some of you at a future gathering of naughties. 
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Get over yourself, and don't assume ANYTHING
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Posted:Sep 14, 2008 7:51 am
Last Updated:Dec 21, 2009 1:51 pm
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So, I'm not much for blogging myself, more about commenting on others....unless I have an actual opinion.
I was in chat, doing my regular banter with people I've become familiar with, making off hand comments to things people say, which is normal for me. Then, out of the blue, someone starts going on a rant to me how they don't do single guys, when I never even made a comment suggesting that was even an intension.
Now, after being on this sight for over 2 years, I do understand a large group of single guys do not much else but call out and assume for sex, but do not group me into that category just cause I may say something to you...especially if don't even have so much as a photo in your profile. And yes, I do read profiles. That's the main reason I pay for membership is so I can. And from all the changes on the site over the years, they may have limited Couples and females open access to reading profiles, but if not, they should read a profile too.
What it comes down to is I'm as picky (or shallow, or selective, or whatever term you want to give it) as any other single woman or couple on the site, perhaps even more so than most. Anyone reading my profile should get that since I make it extremely clear. By the same token, just because I would arrange to meet you one on one (or one on two), does not mean I'm looking to, or will have sex with you. It just means I'm looking to get to know someone and then decide if this is someone who would make for an acquaintance, a friend, a friend with benefits, or a pyscobitch from hell to avoid.
When I lived in Toronto, I met all kinds from the site who fell into every category mentioned and then some, and I'll tell you, there were a lot that I seen or felt no chemistry there, and just made for a great excuse to grab a coffee. Thank goodness, I love coffee. And many others who made for good friends...some I would/did sleep with and others I wouldn't even play with the notion.
Guess my point is don't assume anything, because contrary to what they say, the only ass it makes is you.
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Pinched...Poked....Stabbed...and Ahhhhh
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Posted:Aug 31, 2008 7:41 am
Last Updated:Nov 27, 2008 1:54 pm
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So went yesterday and got my nipples pierced 
It was about time too. This was not the first attempt either. Previous attempts results were from piercer being on vacation, piercing only available certain days (piercer schedule), and awaiting health inspection (ok, that one I was glad didn't happen). But now, finally sporting my nipple jewelry, and after healing time can be tongue te driven.
Only downside....couldn't witness the face of terror on the other person's I went with as she had her's done.  Just kidding though...she did just fine too.
photos to come later.
Hmmm....maybe this could turn into a theme party.  A pierced play party...sort of like a car show and shine, just everyone pierced getting naked, shows off their jewellry, and see where it goes from there. Just an idea.
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Walking on eggshells
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Posted:Aug 6, 2008 7:40 pm
Last Updated:Sep 14, 2008 7:15 pm
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Ok, it's been a year now since I've been back, but still I find it difficult trying to feel the vibe or exactly fit in.
I got so used to while away being able to talk frankly and openly with people I knew, even on first meet about sexual topics. Now that I'm back, and maybe it's just me, but I just I don't get the vibe that a frank conversation involving sexual topics and comments would be easily accepted without being seen as a pig/dog/slut/etc...even when talking to other guys. People seem to more easily accept gay/lesbian couples together, but talk about straight sex (or anything sexual for that matter) and the look that shows on their face resembles that as if you spit on the pope himself.
Even the hint of a topic of sexual content just seems to make people a tad uncomfotable.
Now I've never really cared how people judge or prejudge me (especially since the biggest mouths of those have no idea are in no way accurate), but I never do want to make people feel uncomfortable.
So my question is this, are people still that uptight about sex in general? And/Or is it just my perception?
My friend William used to say "...hammer nails all your life and that doesn't make you a carpenter, but suck one cock and you're gay for life." .... I always found that amusing. And I don't know if he's gay, but his boyfriend is.
Not exactly on topic, but I find it amusing.
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So where have I been...and those just getting to know me, what am I about
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Posted:Aug 4, 2008 8:36 pm
Last Updated:Aug 23, 2008 10:29 am
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Like you may notice from the date of my last blog, it's been a while. Those who already know me wonder where I disappeared to and why. Those who don't, I'm sure, are wondering what I'm about.
The why I won't get too much in to. Suffice it to say it entailed starting off 3 days unconscious and eventually returning to the Cape to mend, end of story. Good news is no real visible scars.
It's been a while since actively being on the site in Ontario. And after only recently visiting the Ontario room, it's good to see many of the good friends I knew still on the site. I hope to return some time, even if only for a visit. The combination of friends, and fwb was a healthy combination, and am sure there are still many in both categories still to be had.
As for the Eastern area, where I stand now is still somewhat up in the air. I'm still trying to get a feel for the more local vibe and attitude. Not so much as an attempt to blend in (as those who know my opinionated personality can understand) but more to get a feel for those whose real selves I could click with.
Those I tend to get along with are more action than talk, and not necessarily all about who puts out. It's more about who is honest about what they look for, and more importantly, not afraid to actually meet new people. Not necessarily always one on one, but also group gatherings (both M&Gs and more "adult" types), so long as they are being themselves, having fun, and not afraid to let their hair down as it were.
As for me, I'm 100% real (as those who know me can attest to) and I love meeting people. I have little shame at gatherings, yet don't try to be the center of attention (although it just ends up that way many times).
I've enjoyed the company of couples and single females alike from the site, but am not a trophy seeker or the common definition of a player as I see it. I'm more just the type of person who believes those with common interests and attraction can act upon them if the mood arises without a need to defend either our actions. I believe in discretion for many circumstances without having to confirm or deny anything. Whether any evening (or morning for that matter) results in anything more than just pleasant conversation is not an issue in need of explanation to anyone.
As for likes/dislikes and boundaries (or lack there of) I'll leave that for those just getting to know me to find out themselves, without having to spell anything out.
It's not always about the destination, but the journey, holds true for learning about people as well.
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Trying to catch up
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Posted:Jan 4, 2007 1:07 pm
Last Updated:Jul 1, 2008 9:06 pm
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Ok, for those of you who know me, you know 2 things. One, I like to flirt, meet, play, and have an over all good time. Second, work for me it takes up an extremely big part of my time and many times I fall out of touch and, sadly enough, my personal life suffers. I don't live a life with a typical job where I can just punch in and out during a regular part of my day. Much of that time as well, I could be just about anywhere, being sent to travel for business to just about anywhere in the continent last minute. Sadly enough, these reeks havoc trying to have the social or personal life I much enjoy.
I just got back recently from being away for over 3 weeks and find myself playing catch up with some time off, not sure what has been going on, or what's coming up. Chances are, just as I do get caught up, I'll be off again. Many can't exactly understand it, why I don't just have a typical job, and why I put so much of my energy into it. It's really not for the cash, that's for sure. So, why do i do it?
Simply put, satisfaction. I take pride in creating and recreating things. I enjoy being the person who does what many would not, or could not, then just stepping back out of the spotlight for doing it. I enjoy being in control of what's happening but being able stand back and let the magic work itself and not having someone hover over me telling me how o do it. I stay away from mentioning what I do exactly since being what it is, and being the site this is, they may not exactly mix well to some, and perception is key in a lot of views. Fair to say though, it is not typical even in it's own category of business.
Do I was I could better find time for a balance of work and personal/play time. Hell yes. But for now I enjoy the few people who understand and work with me in balancing that little time I do have, and hopefully more in the future.
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