Adventures..real or imagined.....
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Posted:Jul 19, 2020 10:25 am
Last Updated:May 6, 2024 4:31 am
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Since moving Detroit, I've seen lots of great things about the city, while longing be back in the romantic notion of philly and those memories polished by time and distance. I often go back, for family ties.....and different adventures...
Being an avid perv(?), and loving the company of females pervs, i switch my location back philly and began scroll the new profiles.... again..
I remember far too many things, names, profiles, pics, obscure convos with frauds/catfish...they're filed away in this noggin of mine, somewhere....for no good reason...
So after scouring profiles and thumbnails, dismissing obvious frauds/men/spam links/prostitutes pretending be women (25/no pic/"always horny", etc)
I find one that "feels" interesting. Sometimes, through the ...the spelling, the pacing..sometimes a real person fleshes out... and things "click". Its akin hitting the lottery--that you encounter someone when theyre open enough meet you when they know about you is that you have your perv hanging out and a profile that you wrote years ago...
She had a single pic (bad), but is WAS a pic that included vagina (good). She was willing text and talk an ACTUAL phone (extremely good).
Her tone was saturated with confidence, purpose, direction. What manner of trcikery is that? Give me a pic.
Convo flows freely. Her focus makes it seem a bit like a job interview, but there's a sincerity in the purpose. What job am I applying for? Meh. Im a day worker, if it turns into a career so be it. I continue with the reckless honesty borne of ignorance, assuming that this personalty has be hiding something....
Hm... partial face only in pic. What is she hiding? but.. that body is... quite nice... and the convo is stimulating....
We arrange a meeting. Her call, her location. Im familiar with the area, my mother lives a few blocks away, so if i get stood , mom gets an unexpected visit 
She's l but calls (awesome sign). I wander around trying get the lay of the land. Tryin look cool, but anxiously awaiting meeting this....presence...
I text her a pic that im here.."im right behind you".
Shit. my chill falls off if it was ever there. and WOW.
Stunning. Even with the face half covered. And those Curves,,,, the picture did it NOOOO justice.
Stay cool. You're sweating. yeah but its hot. Yeah.. but youre in air conditioning... sheeesh
We talk over avocado toast and drinks...the noon summer sun testing our focus and growing attraction....
What happened after that cant have been real....could it?
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After the Meet and Greet...Day One
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Posted:Jan 14, 2017 8:29 am
Last Updated:Jan 14, 2017 8:30 am
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This is the second installment on my SERIAL blog Discreet Gay Dating, and I wanted it to go in somewhat of a chronological order even though it was a little bit behind the time (10-15 years, actually). As noted earlier this is about MY Early days on Discreet Gay Dating. So here we go.
As normal, I went into the chat room the day after the meet and greet and the chat room ( Philly tri-state) was somewhat empty.
I later found out that many of the people who would be in there had gone to the party and got drunk or stayed overnight or had gotten back home…... yet But The room and the rooms and demeanor had change changed. At least for me at it had.
People who have been somewhat reticent to Post talked to me in the room and were quite chatty…. OR maybe Those who have been chatty before Felt much warmer And more engaged. Perhaps it was because the reduction in person. Perhaps it was because we had actually exchanged a hug. Perhaps it was because I into the eyes instead ofPoints on the screen and actually seen a person...Felt a person.. felt a soul.
But for whatever reason, The room was different. People who I've met Were alive. I can see their smiling faces, their furrowed brow or raised eyebrows, or forced Grimaces because I had seen the reality. The chat room took on a new dimension, a new level of importance. Ironically, I found that people From the chat room, Didn't trust people from the Chat room.
So in private messages I began to arrange meetings and to have quite personal conversations with people. Things that had occurred at the meet and greet were explained, Or became clear. My popularity soared.
I guess the point of this installment of the blog was that I think that the important importance of being verified, the real person being an actual flesh and blood person, can't be overemphasized in the CyberWorld. And once that reality is really true –that you ARE a REAL PERSON--ThenPeople tend to open up.
Cyber friends become real.Real, Become real friends. In retrospect, some of the people that I met that night have become some of my long-term, longtime friends in real life. People who were once just burning embers on the screen are now flesh and blood; And nearly incoherent screen names Are now integral parts of my life.
Ain't that a hoot --From a Sex Site?
PS
Please be careful in picking a screenIt will be what people will for ever know you by if they meet you in real life. Trust me on that one.
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Adventures on Discreet Gay Dating-The beginning.
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Posted:Dec 30, 2016 7:45 am
Last Updated:Jan 13, 2017 5:36 am
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I've been on Discreet Gay Dating long enough that the statute of limitions i up for any an all crime that may have been committed...
Actually i decided to write this because i ran into someone i met on Discreet Gay Dating, YEARS ago the other day...2 screennames ago, even. The meeting inspired me to write this, initially, because i couldnt remember WHERE or HOW I'd met her. She'd become a friend and we drifted apart because she got married and her new husband was uncomfortable with our relationship. Which brings me to one of my main points.
"Discreet Gay Dating people" are just people.....that you happened to meet on Discreet Gay Dating. TO categorize or generalize people on here because they're on here is stupid and hypocrisy. YOU are on here, idiot. Real world people are on here and there presence here doesnt dictate or even indicate ANYTHING else about them except that at one time, they were adventurous enough to sign up.
When i first signed up, the CHAT ROOM was the thing that held my interest the most. I entered the room and was greeted by some people that are still my real life friends to this day.
I signed up and filled out my profile. And when i did, I naively put "separated" up as my marital status. Lawwd what a mistake that was. A gaggle of the evil and self righteous moral minority attacked me; accused me of being with my wife and cheating; of being a coward unwilling to get a divorce... all of this within minutes of me entering the chat room and knowing NOTHING about me.
The truth of the matter was that i was actually separated and we were on our way to divorce. We would remain married on paper for 3-4 years but ONLY because neither of us wanted to pay for the divorce to be final (yeah, things were actually THAT contentious).
I had been less judged by holy rollers than i was in this chat room. Nestled within the lines of texts of the judgmental prudes we the friendly posts of 2 women who are my real life friends to this day.
As a single father that had custody of my 2 sons on the weekends, my weekend social life was non existent for the most part, HOWEVER, on the weekend of a custody dispute, there just so happened to be a meet and greet scheduled in the PHILLY area. Mostly to get my mind off of not seeing my that weekend, and only partially to meet the people id been chatting with, I decided to go.
Id told some room members that i was coming and they in turn told me where the group was and who to look for.
The crowd and noise from the Bar/Club seemed like it would chase the (then only) cybernerds that were in the chat room away. It was kind of surreal meeting people that had formerly just been screennames... But i met plenty. Some were a good 10 years removed from the pics on their profile. Some were far more attractive in person than you would have thought from there pictures. Some people i "knew" without having seen pics of them from how much their chat room demeanor MATCHED their party/meet and greet demeanor. We partied. We laughed. We resolved some chat room beefs; some amicably, some, just agreements to disagree. The night was winding down... and i was prepared to go home...after sobering up at a diner.. except.. Some people from the group had hotel rooms across the parking lot from the club... Always open for a good time, I went.
The absence of the music and darkness had chased away the carefree party goers and replaced them with self conscious awkwards. Some of the "life of the party people" had paired off and left; some of those that remained had the rejected pallor of jilted lovers. Party games were played, but it was obvious to me that the party had at the club...somewhere around 3 am, i went home
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Why do guys post dick pics?
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Posted:Mar 30, 2014 10:54 am
Last Updated:Dec 30, 2016 7:48 am
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Guys post dick pics for a few reasons; some of the reasons are smart, some are stupid.
It PAYS to advertise.
Yeah, yeah, most of us know that women "dont like dick pics"--except those that DO. Those that DO like dick pics are the ones that the dick pics are for. Those that DO like dick pics, tend to be MORE in line with the "fuck for fun, see what develops" kinda relationship that GUYS are really looking for. IF dudes have a "great cock" they'll tend to show it. Many dont mind "being used" for their cock. IF they DO mind, they'll stop posting pics of it. See how simple that is?
Average looking guys sometimes have AWESOME dicks
This is really a sub-heading of it pays to advertise. I cant tell you HOW many times women saw my face pics were COMPLETELY unimpressed; I send them a dick pic and I'm IN! lol Now most women won't EVER admit that the dick pic made the difference, but i KNOW that the way they interacted with me changed for the better after they got the pic. They wont admit to themselves, much less to others that it does.
Size doesnt matter is a MYTH!
Not only have they done various studies that illustrate that it does, how could it NOT matter? IT MAY NOT BE the most important thing in a relationship or in sexual performance, but SIZE DOES MATTER. Some women actually NEED smaller, because they arent built that large. SOME women actually NEED LARGER because they ARE that large. THe studies done have shown that more attractive women for more "entitled" to larger penises. So EVEN if a larger penis is just for show, or just a status symbol, it matters.
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YOU CAN find real People, friends, FWB's on here
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Posted:Mar 14, 2014 7:25 am
Last Updated:Mar 15, 2014 2:22 pm
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Yes its true. You can. There are all kinds of ways that you can. And they come from unexpected places.
My friends have come from the chat rooms. There are assholes GALORE in the chat rooms, but dont hold that against them, some of my best friends are the assholes in the chat room. Shit, I'm an asshole in the chat room.
Chat rooms by location are the best way, for OBVIOUS reasons, to meet people in person. The chat room provides a forum for you to watch people's interactions with others. And while not a FLAWLESS predictor of a person's interpersonal skills and demeanor, it is INDEED a HUGE indication of the type of person that they are in real life.
Meets and Greets are also the best way to meet people.
In my experience on Discreet Gay Dating, as a rule, NO ONE will meet you (as a male) without having seen you/met you at a meet and greet. That's a good thing, but again its sort of a RULE. I was int he chat room for MONTHS, if not YEARS before I attended a meet and greet and NO ONE wanted to meet me in person. THEN after I attended a meet and greet, people, some of whom werent eVEN AT The meet and greet, we willing to meet me. On the other hand, after meetin some at the meet and greet, you will also KNOW that , ahem, they arent really your "type". I'll write another post about meet and greet ettiquette (from the perspective of an asshole) on a later blog.
IMO friendships develop naturally and without pressure and/or expectations, as side from civility. Friendships with benefits, IMO, grow from that, with the additional logistic and sexual compatibility.
You DO, however, have to sort through a TON of fakes and psychos to find friends--just like in the real world. The Good news HERE is that you dont have to have folks be privy to your real life/off line life in order to do so.
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The reason they SAY they're on here aint really the reason why they're on here
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Posted:Mar 11, 2014 5:42 am
Last Updated:Mar 13, 2014 12:58 pm
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I find this to be true, not so much because people are trying to fool YOU, but moreso because they arent self aware enough or honest enough with THEMSELVES to know reason that they're on here.
Sometimes the REAL reason that they're on here is because they're just over a break up, they dont feel quite as attractive as their pics, they get rejected in person often, they're too socially awkward/shy to initiate conversation in public, etc
NOt giving those reasons isnt really dishonest, but they are different then most folks STATED reason for being here.
Personally I've met people who have out right psychotic tendencies--like TExT book symptoms--that they hide WELL on line, but show up within minutes of a face to face meet. NO ONE is gonna tell you that they're on here because if you meet them in person you'll be able to tell that im fuckin NUTS within minutes. Esp not if they think they're attractive enough to get you to meet them before you discover their lunacy. (PLEASE, if you KNOW this applies to YOU, dont respond, im NOT really talking about you..lol)
People arent gonna tell you that they're cowards in person and that they cant express an honest opinion face to face, but then get emboldened on line.
People arent gonna tell you that they have ONE decent set of clothes to wear.
People arent gonna tell you that they're married and CAN't get out to meet.
People arent gonna tell you that their personal hygiene is "off".
People arent gonna tell you that they need to keep you at a distance because they think that their sexuality is a "darK" indulgence.
Of course there are EXCEPTIONS that prove ever rule, but.....
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This is on-line, people can show you ONLY what they want you to see
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Posted:Mar 4, 2014 4:41 pm
Last Updated:May 6, 2024 4:31 am
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This is painfully obvious. I cannot understand WHY people are surprised when folks dont look exactly like their profile pics.
Aside from being taken at an "attractive" time, they are also the ones the the SUBJECT likes. You are seeing the cleaned up and edited version of these people. Not that im knocking it. I dont take pictures of myself right after a beer binge and eating a pound of pasta either--AND i make sure to tighten my abs in pics, too.
But the point is that you have NO hope of knowing what someone is like in person from their on-line profile. Chat is a different issue. Engaging in chat is a great way of knowing someone's conversation style, sense of humor, conversational cadence, etc ( within reason).
But the profile can be out of date, as well as intentionally obtuse and/or deceptive. IF they are showing you a bitter asshole, trust and believe they intend on making you deal with a bitter asshole. If their profile is confrontational, THEY will be defensive. If their profile is "too good to be true" then they're probably not even a real person.
The only thing i can really recommend to combat profile deception is a live cam. I almost always insist on it. EVERYONE has a cam now, except catfish. Catfish NEVER have cams.
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If their Profile sounds bitter....
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Posted:Mar 1, 2014 7:40 pm
Last Updated:Dec 30, 2016 7:47 am
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It takes a special kind of person to rid themselves of baggage, especially lots of baggage. Most people cant. Most people have NO idea how to deal with the baggage. So most people blame OTHERS for being the root of their problems. They blame men, women, people and the loathsome “Discreet Gay Dating person”. As though THEY aren’t on Discreet Gay Dating, too.
Sometimes they’re right, but only YOU control who’s in your life. If someone thinks that the problems they have with the people they meet and/or allow in their lives can be pre-empted by some aggressive words in a profile on a sex site..well its gonna be pretty obvious REALLY quickly that they have personal accountability issues. If you can’t by-pass the hurt feelings that you’ve amassed long enough to write a decent profile, then you’re still “wallowing” in the pain.
So think about it, the profile writer is putting their “best foot forward” and they come across as bitter, how long do you think it will take before they find your “faults”, real or imagined? Perhaps I’m not expressing my perspective clearly or simply enough. If all the people you meet are assholes, liars, users, etc the ONE thing they have in common is YOU. Whether they have awesome dupe-hunter tracking skills or not, YOU ( the bitter ones) KEEP ALLOWING THEM TO FIND YOU. EVERYONE is responsible for who they have in their lives and hearts.
Imo bitter profiles is evidence of blame shifting. Blame shifting requires intervention to break the cycles.
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EVERYONE on Discreet Gay Dating has issues..WHY?
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Posted:Feb 20, 2014 9:11 am
Last Updated:Feb 20, 2014 11:32 am
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Because EVERYONE has issues. If you think you dont have issues, you have SERIOUS issues. Its ok though. And I'm not really talking about THOSE issues, im talkin about the things that drive people TO Discreet Gay Dating in the first place.
Usually, there is at least ONE extenuating circumstance that has people on Discreet Gay Dating as opposed to other places, EVEN IF they are on other sites.
Some times the issues are simple and benign . We'll call them Level 1 Issues. Like time, or location, money or logistics.
Other times the issues are a little deeper, like relationship status. We'll call those Level 2 issues.
And still other times, the issues are deeper still like relationship-phobia, attachment issues, sex addictions, "unusual" sexual preferences, conditions or situations and/or truly psychotic tendencies, etc. Those are level 3 issues.
And um.. you CAN, and a lot DO have issues on various levels.
Oh yeah, the "i only come here to chat" thing is indicative of issues too. And most times I'm am ONLY here to chat. But think about it, your main/primary audience is a group of pervs/ sexually driven people? Why not chat on another form of internet media? My idea is that too many of us iike the social freedom that an overtly sexual site is SUPPOSED to provide. That issue is a topic for discussion in and of itself.
The problem is that its USUALLY level 3 issue people that are "for real" or Really interested in meeting. Fun. But Drama.
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SEX on Discreet Gay Dating!
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Posted:Feb 18, 2014 6:18 am
Last Updated:Mar 16, 2014 12:55 pm
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Get women on Discreet Gay Dating!
I could literally write a book on it. But I'll start with a blog I've been on the site for 8-10 years, on and off and depending on how you count.
There are some RULES to finding and meeting women on this site. Since everyone suffers from ADHD now, I'll list them here and discuss one every few days or so.
1) EVERYONE on here has issues (yes, including me)
2) If their profile sounds bitter and/ or jaded, they Usually are
3) This is ON LINE, people have the ability to ONLY show you what they want you to see
4) the reason that they SAY they're on here AINT the REAL reason that they are
5) you CAN find REAL friends, FWB's, Relationships, people on here.
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