Where are you from in the dating world?
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Posted:Jan 31, 2009 7:17 pm
Last Updated:Jan 7, 2011 9:12 am
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So...true story: There is a stretch of Highway on the East Coast where if you are going North on it reads:
Blacksburg
Blacks Run
Lynchville
Somehow I always saw that as somehow fitting, not to mention hilarious! Now while this may show many of you what an incredibly warped sense of humor I have, what it shows me is that somewhere in the middle is where the story gets interesting, and it is the middle of the book that is always responsible for getting you to the end of it.
Seriously...how many books have you started and just put down b/c you couldn't get through them? The middle...the in between...is so critical in our lives. Don't believe me, just ask an Oreo cookie!
"Darts! What the hell is the point?" Simply this: One of the many discoveries that I have made on this site is that a lot of members, (yes...even the men) are generally hanging out somewhere between NSAville and Wannagosteady Town.
While there are definitely times when I just want the feel of a warm body against me, there are also times when I feel like it would be nice if it were the same warm body. Because this can vary with my mood, I have a challenging time really ever determining what Town I currently live in. This got me to thinking if I really live in one of those in between towns.
For example, maybe I live in Friendwithbeniesville. A nice urban community filled with wonderful people who sincerely care about me and see and understand my value as a person, but from time to time are mesmerized by the size of tits, go into a trance and then have to pounce on me. Nice place. Good schools, decent economy, and willing to help me out in a pinch.
Or maybe I reside in, "Pagingmisterright Heights". A place where all I see are men who could potentially get me off of this insipid rollercoaster of daft dating, and take care of my many seemingly unquenchable desires. You know the place ladies...men are handsome, smart, witty, self-assured, but not assured asses. A land as magical and as amazing as Narnia or Oz, but without all the funny looking creatures or evil witches.
Most days I seem to end up in "Whatthefuckville". A place where I am not even 50% sure of what I'm looking for, much less what I really want. Which concerns me because then how will I know if I am in the right place at the right time? Whatthefuckville is also filled with relationships that leave you wondering if it is worth any effort to invest in them at all, and if you really care of things don't go anywhere. It houses a bunch of people with insecurities that they always seem to take out on you, and you do the same. And everyone deals with it and accepts it because after all a good lay is a good lay right?
Cities and towns past Wannagosteady Town include, "Whyareyoumarried Gardens". A gated community where you can visit all the amazing people that in almost a museum type of display case. Where you can look and sometimes even touch, but you will always be reminded that A) You don't belong here, and  you may eventually be escorted off the grounds. Always a fun place to visit though, even if there are no real souvenirs you can take home.
Another is, "Imwalkingdownanailse Pointe". A secluded cul-de-sac of happy committed couples that taunt you with their overwhelming sense of being comfortable with themselves as they look upon you with pity and self-satisfaction.
Well...if the purpose of a blog is to ramble on about nothing in particular, then I think I have achieved the objective. Today I am not sure where I am, but I just know that at the current time I feel unsettled. I'm not sure which direction to go or where I will end up, but I am always hoping that the road leads to somewhere.
I'd love to hear what town you feel you are from, living, or would like to visit. Maybe we can create a map and take some road trips! Bon Voyage!!!
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Why would I be interested in a blank profile?
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Posted:Jan 3, 2009 4:08 pm
Last Updated:Apr 17, 2010 11:17 am
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Okay, I'm speaking to everyone who doesn't fill out a profile, but particuarly to the men. I really just want to offer a constructive observation:
In an environment where men easily out number women, men need to give themselves every advantage possible. What does this mean? Now I'm not saying any of this to make anyone feel bad. I know there a lot of folks out there that struggle with writing that kind of stuff. At a bare minimum write 3 sentences on each entry.
Here are some simple suggestions:
1)Have a pic. We are in the 21st century people. Nobody buys before looking.
2)Tell us something about yourself! What is the point of having a Username like: Like2LickU if I have no idea what you stimulates you or if you not going to talk about how you are going to stimulate me. Guys especially this is HUGE!!! You will score more interests and winks if we know something about you. There is no reason to write a greek epic, but put something there.
Some ideas: Where you're from, what you like to do outdoors or indoors, how you like to be with a partner, 3 to 5 strong adjectives that your friends would use to describe you. What type of relationship you want (LTR, NSA, etc.)
3) Tell us what you want in a partner. Again, an almost no brainer...folks want to know if they can fulfill your needs, not just an orifice.
Some ideas: What type of physical features you look for in a partner, what emotional or intellectional personality aspects you look for (humor, intelligence, etc.)
4) Fill out the "View more of XXX's responses" area. This is a great passavie way for potential partners to get to know you.
Again, these are just suggestions. I know that these are things that me and my friends look for when determining when and if we are going to respond....Good luck to all!
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