Thoughts for the day
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Posted:Dec 16, 2015 1:37 pm
Last Updated:Jan 2, 2016 1:59 pm
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How does one battle and fight back against evil?
Respond in love.....evil has no clue how to battle love and kindness.
Love always wins out in the end.
Peace and love to you all 
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So you think she's a bitch....
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Posted:Dec 13, 2015 6:57 pm
Last Updated:Dec 16, 2015 8:01 pm
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Because she is cautious. She looks at you with trepidation, mistrust. She posts on her profile that she doesn't want to be bothered with email from men she doesn't know. She won't give you the time of day. She looks at you with loathing. You try to talk to her and she shuts you down. She puts you in the category of men who just want to fuck, then walk away without a word. So, she doesn't give you the chance to do that to her. So, she's a bitch, right?
Did you ever stop and consider that......
Men have hurt her so badly. She has never met one that actually stepped up to the plate and behaved in a responsible manner. From the moment she was born, men have walked away. Her father left. Her husband left. Every man she has tried to trust has always let her down.
In her vulnerable state, she has been violated. Men can take what they want without asking. She is left crying into the night, alone, wondering what she did wrong when in reality it was the man who violated her. He is at fault. She is the victim. He is the predator.
She has been left alone, for many years, to support a . Every day she worries about how she will pay the bills, keep the house clean, get all the shopping done, run all of her errands, pay the rent, buy food, get repairs done to the house, car, etc., and support her . All by herself. Not one man has stepped up to the plate.
Men are so fallen from the nature that they were originally created. From the moment Adam partook of that “forbidden apple,” he is so far fallen from his original state of protector, provider and lover. He thinks he is entitled. He thinks he can just take what he wants and walk away, leaving her to feel the pain all alone. Men are cruel. Their hearts are black.
She has done her research. Studied the psychology of the male brain and the female brain. She knows the physiological differences that lead to the emotional differences. She understands the lie that society has perpetuated that men and women are equal and the same. She knows that women and men are equal, but definitely not the same.
She knows that she is not perfect. She, too, is in a fallen state and must learn the techniques to change herself so that she might grow and return to that physical state that brings her closer to the original woman that she was intended to be. However, as she searches for the man who is trying to get back to his original state, also, she loses hope because the men around her don't seem to care about any of that.
Her days are spent trying to learn and educate herself about the reality of life, not falling for the smokescreens and lies that surround her. She tries to shut herself off to avoid the pain that arises from any relationship with men. Because, in the end, all relationships involving men only lead to destruction and despair, destroyed hope, a shattered heart. Not one has ever stepped up to the plate. Her hope is gone that any ever will.
So, before you call her a bitch because she ignores your sexual advances or flat out tells you “no,” maybe you should consider these things. Instead of trying to see how quickly you can get into her pants and have your sexual desires fulfilled without any regard for her physical or emotional well-being, you should try to just get to know her first. Talk about things other than sex. Have a stimulating conversation with her.
If she has “friend zoned” you out of protection for her own heart, have the balls to take your time, get to know her, let her get to know you, be a gentleman, pursue her with kindness and affection instead of your cock, give her the hope that if you do have something in common you will actually stick around and commit to her. Be a man. Be a gentleman.
Stop viewing her as a bitch and start looking at her in a different light. Be willing to look beneath the surface and see the beauty, the pain, the hope, the sadness, and the insecurities. Be willing to take the time, ask her how she's doing, see if she needs help with anything, talk to her about things she is interested in.
Stop being a dick. And she will stop appearing to be a bitch to you.
NOTE....There are a very rare minority of men whom I have met that are caring, gracious, and loving. This journal entry is not directed at you. You know who you are. The very few who have hugged and comforted me in times when I desperately needed it. Thank you for being the rare exception.
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Freedom
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Posted:Aug 15, 2014 9:33 am
Last Updated:Dec 16, 2015 1:43 pm
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She awakens
to find herself lying
on the ground.
She is naked.
Her eyes look up
into the night sky.
Stars.
So many stars.
And a moon.
Two moons.
Three moons.
Where is she?
Her body quivers in fear.
She tries to move.
Her wrists are bound with rope.
She tries to kick.
Her ankles are bound together.
She starts to cry.
Where is she?
Footsteps.
She hears footsteps
in the grass
approaching her.
She quiets herself.
She trembles in fear.
Strong hands reach down
and gently pick her up.
She shivers.
"Shhhhhh"
A soothing voice whispers
in her ear.
He grasps her tightly.
"Mine"
He says in a stong
but tender voice.
He carries her home
to freedom.
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CBT?
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Posted:Aug 2, 2014 10:13 am
Last Updated:Aug 5, 2014 4:39 pm
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I came across the acronym CBT and I wanted to know it means. So I did what any intelligent person would do, I googled it...LOL. The sexual meaning is "Cockandball torture." Ok.....so immediately after that was the psychological definition..."cognitive behavior therapy." I had to laugh at this. Aren't they one and the same?
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My Journey
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Posted:Jul 14, 2014 9:59 am
Last Updated:Nov 11, 2015 6:27 pm
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I joined Discreet Gay Dating on April 1, 2014....lol.....yeah it was April Fool's Day. That in and of itself is kinda funny. I didn't plan it that way, either...just happened to be the day I joined. Anyway, I just realized it's been 3 months since I started this journey. And I am reflecting back on the people I have met, the things I have learned about myself, and men.
Actually, I have learned quite a bit, and I am still learning. Perhaps someday I will attempt to write a novel about it  Most importantly, I am learning about myself, what my desires and needs are. All of my life, I have been in failed relationships. I keep asking myself, "Why?" I even ask myself, "What is wrong is me?" And I have found the answer.....Nothing!!
I am a unique, caring, loving, friendly, compassionate, kind, intelligent, humorous, loyal, sensual, sexy, and kinky woman who is still learning about herself and growing everyday. Perhaps I have not met the right partner for myself because I needed that opportunity to discover myself truly, take a deep look inside, find out what makes me happy instead of always trying to please someone else. I am getting acquainted with me....trying to live my life the way I see fit, not worry about what others will think of me. I am tired of living my life in a box and trying to be someone I am not. I am unique, I am free-spirited, I am a beautiful woman on the inside and outside, and I have so much to give to that one person who is my ideal companion.
Who is he? I don't have a clue. It may be years until I meet him. But, that is ok. I am not in any hurry anymore. I am enjoying the ride, enjoying my new experiences, meeting new people, learning what is out there in the big wide world and being reminded that conservative, stuffy, cliquish Chico, CA is only one little dot, a tiny miniscule speck on the earth, and that there is a huge world of diverse and unique people out there also, one of them in particular searching for a mate just like me. Yes, I find Chico to be stuffy and conservative, full of college and preppy married couples who look down upon anyone different from themselves. Ok...I know that is judgemental. I hate being judgemental. I have tried to make friends with some of these people but I feel so awkward around them, have nothing in common with them, especially the "happily" married ones. I have never had that experience. Maybe that is why I feel so detached from them.
Anyway, I digress. So, back to reality. I am learning about me. I want to shed the constrictions society places upon me. Even well meaning friends and family place these constrictions upon me. I don't want to have to be someone I am not. I want the freedom to be me. I want to be accepted and loved for who I really am. To my fellow travelers on this road to self discovery I say a welcoming and friendly "hello" as our paths cross for an instant. We may travel together for a short time, then inevitably, our paths will separate at some point, as everyone has their own path to choose and follow. Sometime in the future, our paths may cross again. Until then, however, I bid you a safe journey and many meaningful self discoveries.
Life is to love, to love is to live. My words...I don't think that is a quote anyone has said before. I hope not...lol. It came to my mind. Can't remember having seen it or heard it anywhere before. Farewell, for now, my fellow travelers. Until our paths cross again.
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My first swingers' party
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Posted:Jun 18, 2014 9:39 pm
Last Updated:Jan 7, 2016 7:14 am
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I had the pleasure of experiencing my first swingers' party recently. I had gone alone, having checked out the place and done my research, I felt secure that it would be a safe place for me to go alone. I had tried to get several guys from this site to accompany me, however, because of work schedules or whatever other excuses they could come up with, I ended up going solo. When I first arrived, I was greeted by the host, who was very kind and understood that it was my first time, and I was nervous as could be, but excited. I was introduced to very friendly people, everyone having a smile on their faces and a very relaxed environment. There was plenty of food, adult movies playing in the background, a nice pool, and lots of naked people!!! It was my first experience being around so many naked people...lol. But, everyone was non-judgemental, and everyone was there to enjoy themselves and relax. After several hours, and several stiff drinks, I was able to loosen up and relax. Then I really started to enjoy myself. By the end of the evening, I was completely and utterly sexually satisfied. I have a high sex drive, so that is saying something..LOL. I made lots of new friends, and I felt really comfortable around that group of people. They were all terrific. A wonderful group of swingers. I know the lifestyle is not for everyone.....but, for me, it is proving to be a most satisfying experience. I look forward to the next party and seeing my new found friends again, and hopefully making some more!!!
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LMAO
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Posted:Jun 4, 2014 4:06 pm
Last Updated:Jun 11, 2014 6:07 pm
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Here are some humorous quotes about sex that I received in an email from Swinglifestyle humor. Hope you enjoy. These made me laugh....
“10 S*x Quotes.”
1. “You know “that look” women get when they want s*x? Me neither.” - Steve Martin
2. “Remember, if you smoke after s*x you’re doing it too fast.” - Woody Allen
3. “Bis*xuality immediately doubles your chances for a date on Saturday night.” - Rodney Dangerfield
4. “S*x is one of the nine reasons for reincarnation. The other eight are unimportant.” - George Burns
5. “Love is the answer, but while you are waiting for the answer, s*x raises some pretty good questions.” - Woody Allen
6. “According to a new survey, women say they feel more comfortable undressing in front of men than they do undressing in front of other women. They say that women are too judgmental, where, of course, men are just grateful. “ - Robert De Niro
7. “Don’t knock masturbation – It’s s*x with someone I love.” – Woody Allen
8. “S*x is emotion in motion.” – Mae West
9. “My wife wants s*x in the back of the car and she wants me to drive.” – Rodney Dangerfield
10. “Some things are better than s*x, and some are worse, but there’s nothing exactly like it.” W. C. Fields
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Memorial Day
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Posted:May 26, 2014 8:47 pm
Last Updated:May 31, 2014 3:33 pm
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Amongst the business of the day, barbecuing, spending time with family and friends, eating delicious food, I forgot something. I am sad to say I did not remember until after we had eaten dinner. As we were still sitting at the table, our stomachs full with grilled chicken, hamburgers, hotdogs, salad, chips and fresh pineapple, it suddenly dawned on me that I had not taken even a moment to remember what this day is all about. I immediately told my family that I wanted to take a moment to pray, and to remember the soldiers who had given their lives, and their families that are left behind missing their loved ones. No, this country isn't perfect. It has tons of issues. But, I am happy and proud to be an American. Yes, we grumble about paying taxes, about our corrupt government, about the social inequality that exists. Yes, these are huge issues. But, I have the freedom to speak up and voice my opinions about these issues. And lots of men and women lost their lives ensuring and protecting that freedom. This country was built on the backbone of God loving folks sailing across an ocean to build a better life for their families. I would urge every American to take a moment, and give thanks to our God, and to the men and women who fought, and to this day still fight, to protect our liberties. Even the direst of circumstances here in this country can seem like Heaven to someone who lives in a country where there is no clean drinking water, dying everyday with no hope of help coming from anywhere, innocents being shot and killed in the streets by insurgents, Christians and other religious believers being killed for their beliefs. Being put to death because there is a Bible in the house. I know America has its issues too. But I thank God I am an American.
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Summertime!!!
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Posted:May 19, 2014 6:30 pm
Last Updated:May 21, 2014 9:22 pm
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Just thinking about how I love summer. Yes, it gets HOT here in the valley. But I love the lazy days in the pool, just lounging on a float, drinking a cold beer. Hanging out with friends, making margaritas or strawberry daqueries (ughhh...how do you spell that!! lol). Backyard barbeques, chicken slow cooked on the grill with a smoky mesquite sauce, thick hamburgers with swiss cheese and mushrooms melted over them. Juicy, smokey flavored steak cooked medium well done on a charcoal grill....(gas grills just don't add the same flavor). Mmm...throw some bacon on top of that cheeseburger too, lettuce, tomatoes. Tanned bodies cooling off in the pool or soaking up the sun (don't forget sunscreen)!! Oh, and did I mention a nice cold beer? There is just something about a cold beer on a hot summer day. I guess with Memorial Day coming up in a week, it has me thinking about swimming and barbeques. Even though at the moment is cool outside, with a chance of rain, I know the really hot days are just around the corner. So, find a partner and make sure you have him/her massage that sunscreen into your shoulders and back. Find a hot, sexy body to admire. And put your sunglasses on!!! The heat is on!!!!!!!
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I am bored...blahhhh
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Posted:May 16, 2014 5:44 pm
Last Updated:May 18, 2014 4:19 pm
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Well, it's Friday late afternoon and I am bored. LOL. Where are all the hot sexy guys who want a fwb? Why am I, a hot sexy lady, sitting here alone on a Friday night drinking beer alone? wtf is this world coming to? BLAHHH
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Things are looking up :-)
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Posted:May 13, 2014 12:55 pm
Last Updated:May 14, 2014 2:31 pm
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Wow, things are starting to finally look up. I have met a really cool fwb. And I am talking to several couples who might be potentials for people to explore sexually with. Going through the "interview" process of course. Must be friendship, compatibility, trust, safe sex, and mutual respect and integrity on everyone's part. But, I am learning that patience will lead to these things. I can honestly say my social life has improved after becoming a member of this site. I also joined another site for swingers. So, I am going through that selection process also and seeking like minded people. I am not sure if the swinging lifestyle is for me, but I am learning much. Like, today I learned what the term "unicorn" meant...lol. I am such a newb when it comes to this stuff. But it is fun learning. And meeting terrific people along the way. I know shortly after becoming a member here, I was very discouraged. Thank you to those of you who persuaded me not to give up, and have patience. I am learning a lot about myself. Much of my life has been spent taking care of others, putting my own needs aside. Now, that I am beginning to take a closer at myself, and find out what makes me happy and what makes me feel alive, I am much more content with life. There is love, friendship, and honesty in the world. It just takes time, and effort, to find. I made some really awesome friends online in the blogging community. Please know I treasure your comments, honesty, and thoughtfulness. Life is definitely a learning process, and it is a much smoother and easier ride when the right people are alongside to enjoy the view 
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What's a girl to do!!!! THANK YOU!!!
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Posted:May 9, 2014 8:28 pm
Last Updated:May 13, 2014 7:15 pm
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Well, I found myself alone on a Friday night, very very restless. I tried watching several movies..couldn't get interested in them. I tried playing in Second Life. Was bored. So so restless. What to do? What to do? So, I went into my bedroom and lay down on the bed, after pulling off my panties. I plugged in my Hitatchi and started playing with it. MMMM......felt so yummy. I let the vibrations pulse throughout my body until I came....over and over again clutching the pillows, moaning, whimpering with pleasure. So fucking awesome. So fucking intense. One clitoral orgasm, leading to multiple g-spot orgasms. OMG. I feel so much better now. I think I am ready to watch a television show now, or a movie. Make myself a frappe. I am so chill. I LOVE YOU HITATCHI!!!!! 
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Finally Friday
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Posted:May 2, 2014 5:05 pm
Last Updated:Jun 5, 2014 7:04 pm
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Well, it is finally Friday. Workweek is done. What to do..what to do. I have been watching the Following. Just started watching season 1. Have watched 3 episodes so far. I am hooked...lol. So very suspenseful and the plot is great. And the villain is a charmer. Too bad he is psycho!!! Ahhh...there is a nice breeze outside. I don't have to set my alarm for 6 am tomorrow morning. Can sleep in later. Nice.....I love Saturday mornings. No where I have to run to or be at. Got some housework to do, but can do it at my leisure. LOL.....I know...not a very exciting weekend. But, nevertheless, it is relaxing. Cheers. Happy Weekend 
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