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Where's your ego at? What are you REALLY doing here?...
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Where's your ego at? What are you REALLY doing here?... Do you fit in? How well? how important is that to you? Do you think your Discreet Gay Dating alter-ego is the same 'you' you carry around in your day-to-day life? Since I started using Discreet Gay Dating in 2008, these were the top questions running through my head, and these questions, once I answered them to myself, became the grounding notions I used to judge others who use Discreet Gay Dating. Who are they in real life? Are they a conformist or an outlier? How much self-esteem do they have? You see, real truth begins inward, and if you humble down and ask yourself the hard questions, and answer them back honestly to yourself, you actually unlock a fair way to be outwardly judgmental. This is where I think a good deal of us are going wrong. Our Discreet Gay Dating alter-egos, or 'digital egos' are interfering with our real-life egos, or 'analog egos'. I don't know about all of you, but just one ego is plenty to do for me... The missing link here is honesty, and the worst person to lie to or about is yourself. Many of us have allowed Discreet Gay Dating to push us across the line into narcissism. The writing is written all over the walls here. Discreet Gay Dating users have different communication protocols than say speaking with someone in person, and the 'ideals' for both genders are muddied up by the luxury of never really having to face mostly those you will never meet anyways. Kind of 'loosens the lips', doesn't it? This is what I am getting at when I describe a 'digital ego' vs an 'analog ego'. "You see, real truth begins inward, and if you humble down and ask yourself the hard questions, and answer them back honestly to yourself, you actually unlock a fair way to be outwardly judgmental." It is amazing what human scum emerges from under the rocks when consequence and repercussion are removed from the table for both genders. We are not our blogs, we are not our pics, even though they resemble us, and we are not our videos either. All of that is a projection of our false ideals on a website which has not significantly changed structurally for more than 10 years. Even with that said, IMO it is still better than Tinder. Many of you are actually flirting with a serious mental condition classified as Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and a similar condition called Borderline Personality Disorder. These two conditions are society destroyers, and should not be taken lightly. Online dating has been observed for a good amount of time now, and it is apparent that online dating is a catalyst for these conditions. I have barely been back on here for a month, and I can see online dating has become worse. It also appears to be linked to the social decay we see real-time, and no doubt experts are still observing. This is not solely the fault of Discreet Gay Dating. This is all on us, and our tolerance for egotistical double-standards. I only wish more of these experts would speak up. In the long run if this is left unchecked, one of two things are going to happen. One being online dating simply failing to crap like Tinder entirely. Two being the continued destruction of the 'analog ego' in favour of the 'digital ego'. "Our Discreet Gay Dating alter-egos, or 'digital egos' are interfering with our real-life egos, or 'analog egos'. I don't know about all of you, but just one ego is plenty to do for me..." ref: (for interest's sake) Sigmund Freud; - His work on 'ego, id, and superego'. - His work on narcissism, and influence of 'NPD' and 'BPD' as per the DSM-5 DSM-5; (2013) Conduct Disorders, and Cluster B Personality Disorders. |
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"Do you blog for yourself or the masses? When people blog for the masses, they start to lie. I've met other bloggers who were blogging for the masses. They lied big time. It becomes Kardashian Social Media. People want readers to feel envious of them." I blog for myself to the masses. I altered some things on my profile, such as B-day and other doxable data for security purposes, but for the most part this is truly how I carry myself today. Lying, to me, is not just destructive, it is time consuming and tedious. It takes less effort in truth, and I have no primary desire to impress anyone here. I am primarily here to get some data on online dating, to compare social media, and to act against this conflict of ego we generated for ourselves shortly after the internet was released to the public. My blogging will have a sharp anti-humanist slant, and I will come off as a critic more than a subject here. I also likely will not block anyone unless things may escalate to an issue outside Discreet Gay Dating. I have an anti-agenda here. It is to provoke, not to impress, and I am to gather the data from my disputes and conflicts here to strengthen my case as referenced in this particular entry here. Online dating is ground-zero for this conflict of ego, and if (most of) our doctors can't be bloody bothered...
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WOW, our blogs aren't us or our pictures aren't either..Damn It someone has been pretending to be me here.. !!!Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on.. 
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RockaBull replies on 11/24/2017 5:21 pm: I have seen many ugly things people do to one another at our Discreet Gay Dating Meet-ups in Winnipeg. This effect is definitely doing damage here in Manitoba. That is a shame.... sorry to hear that. Come think dirty with me - GixxerLust
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There is definitely an anonymity to online that allows someone to be who they wish they were and unfortunately it is also a haven for keyboard warriors and cyber bullies. It is sad to see that some people are not comfortable or confident enough to be whatever they choose in their real world and the ones that try to pop out of their shy shell get beaten back by the self entitled scrutinizers. I am the same openly sexual person here that I am offline. It took me years to realize exactly who I am so I have no need to embellish or hide behind a computer. Come think dirty with me - GixxerLust
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This is great post that will be misunderstood by many. Social media everywhere is making this/these "people" easier to pretend who they think they are. Congrat on your reply to Crystal (Virtual Symposium Group) use Virtual Symposium Group
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It certainly makes more sense when it's explained clinically.The opposed will say you're angry because you were turned down. We can't deny that social media is taking us on a destructive journey. Using more than all the road!
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To be fair, I think the increase in attention seeking and narcissism applies to ALL "meet people" sites, not just this one. Actually, all social media sites. I know a few people who post continuous selfies on facebook.  
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